sad story

To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon to be married, I hope you will be touched with this story... MARRIAGE When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

By: Kay Regala

f-r-i-d-a-y

=) =) =)

today is my favorite day - friday.

my mood will automatic change to ^^.

i really love friday so so muchie.

because during weekend i can rest kao kao..

OR

finish doing all my stuff..

this will be a busy weekend.

sat - going to cameron highland with colleague (1 day trip).

sun - early morning gotta wake up to teach tuition (9am --> 1pm), sure tired sei le... ><

then, going to buy rice cooker n shop grocery to buy some stuff for my daycare.

woww..

this week seems like no time for me to rest kao kao le.

BUT..

i feel HAPPY too..

=) =) =)

? ?

为什么 ? 为什么 ?

我今天的心情怎么会那么不好呢 ? ? ?

是因为看到了一些不该看的东西吗 ? ?

不过....

这些事情不是我早就猜测到的吗 ? ?

你是一个怎样的人, 难道我现在才懂吗 ? ?

不可能~~

只是今天才知道更多罢了..

怎么办 ? 怎么办 ?

怎么我今早会有那么多问号的 ? ?

?-?

26.04.10

又是星期一了, 新的一个星期又要开始了..

是好事吗???

自从上星期开始, 我的时间好像都不够用, 每天都过得很忙..很忙 !!

早上7点起身要去上班,下午要就要赶去我的安亲班, 晚上回到家休息一下就要睡觉了..

这样的一天... 根本没有多余的时间再给我去做别的事情 ~~ @@

不过咧~~~我都过得很充实, 很开心. 为什么的 ?? =.="

是不是我注定是辛苦命, 所以要挨呢????

哈哈 =p

不写了..

要做工了..

morning to Mr. Wednesday

alone at kindergarten here, sien....... i feel so tired n sleepy this morning. what to do??

tonight going to celebrate birthday with my friend.

hope can take a nap this afternoon, if not.. night time will be a sleeping panda bear.

hoho~~

------- have a nice wednesday -------

早安

最近真的比较忙~

还没有时间更新我的香港的blog~

可能等我想写的时候。。已经忘了在香港的过程了~

.........

不说啦,我要做工了~

^.^

我爱你的100个理由

我爱你因为。。。。
1。再危险，你都让我觉得安全
2。因为你深情呼唤我的名字
3。找不到你时候，你会很快找到我
4。喜欢你说谢谢的感觉
5。想要走进你的世界
6。你的心跳和我一样
7。你把我的电话号码背下来
8。依然记得相逢的那一刻
9。你在拥抱的时候心无杂念
10。失去你，感觉像失去全世界
11。你的爱，让我年轻自在
12。舍不得和你说再见
13。情人是最贴心的仆人
14。思念让我度日如年
15。你把我当成稀世珍宝般炫耀
16。你是我想共度一生的人
17。情人的时间没有逻辑可言
18。喜欢你赖床的样子
19。爱情是发现自己的过程
20。你为我点亮心中的烛光
21。我们的爱是透明的
22。分享心事是爱情的一大步
23。和你通电话时，我会不断想像电话那头你的样子
24。你一直收藏着我给你的每一长小卡片
25。你的眼神似乎可以把我穿透
26。只有你懂得欣赏我的美丽
27。你总是带给我欢笑
28。你是我唯一能依存的回忆
29。你了解我，你比狗仔对还专业
30。你让我觉得自己很性感
31。我喜欢你的心，你的思想，也喜欢你的耳垂、牙齿、手指甲、、、、
32。你很假，可以应付我老妈
33。我们是茫茫人海中的两块拼图
34。我们俩的身高配合得天衣无缝
35。你非常在意我的评价
36。只有你不认为我应该要减肥
37。我是你最亲密的那个人
38。你探索我心里的每个角落
39。你头上多了一些白发
40。我是你的心灵鸡汤
41。你非常重视我所提出的意见
42。你善良又风趣
43。你会安静聆听我的批评
44。我可以不断丢给你一些难题
45。我可以放心地抛弃你
46。你的世界比我想像的更美丽
47。对我，你没办法洒脱
48。你把我的抱怨当成许愿
49。我不管好事坏事都想告诉你
50。你让我活在希望里
51。你就是我生命的意义和目的
52。我的生命多了许多可能
53。你把我的缺点变成优点
54。你从不会试图改变我
55。你真的为了我的快乐而快乐
56。你是我最想伸手抓住的人
57。你包容我好强的伪装
58。你会打电话给我
59。你乐于分享我的梦想
60。你的话语隐含着情意
61。笑话再冷，你也会卖力回应
62。你让我特别又有人陪
63。你会用吻让我闭嘴
64。你让我安心犯错
65。你心疼，我也会跟着眼睛红
66。你是我最忠实的听众
67。你不在乎我批评你的技术
68。没人比你更适合我
69。我是你的no.1
70。你在我的面前不会那么虚伪
71。你衬托出我的品味
72。喜欢你的小动作
73。你居然把我的家人都摆平
74。只要我送的，你都会喜欢
75。因为你做人很成功
76。你不会泄漏我们之间的秘密
77。你的缺点反应出我的优点
78。我们都喜欢说别人的八卦
79。难得我们志同道合
80。你会记住我的梦话
81。你真的把我放在心坎里
82。你总是给我意外惊喜
83。你把房子变成了家
84。你的品味让我们很适合
85。你会不由自主的把我搂在怀里
86。每次，你都会故意让我赢
87。你会在蓝图里为我留个位置
88。幸福就是最美好的礼物
89。爱情让我更清醒
90。我们有共同的喜好和烦恼
91。你为了我变得更好
92。在生气你也不会发脾气
93。你给了我独自面对困难的勇气
94。就算我早泄，你也把我当成宝贝
95。你会体贴的问我喜欢什么姿势
96。你可以很快感应我的心情
97。你可以找出我的错误，纠正我，但不责备我
98。每天都有喜悦的感觉
99。你当我是宝贝，不是累积
100。很高兴，你刚好也爱我